- Du skal vist bruge den sele-forlænger, som kvinder, der rejser med børn, bruger, og næste gang bør du nok overveje at købe to sæder.
Sådan lød beskeden til Kayla Martin fra en stewardesse, da den 25-årige kvinde tilbage i 2012 skulle rejse på ferie fra New Zealand til Australien. Det skriver den unge kvinde i et opslag på Instagram.
- Følelsen af flovhed og skam er noget, jeg aldrig vil glemme, skriver Kayla Martin om det ubehagelige møde med stewardessen.
Men selvom kommentaren nok ville få de fleste til at bryde ud i gråd, fik det i stedet Kayla Martin til at spænde ballerne sammen og gå all in på at forbedre sin livsstil.
Indtil videre har det resulteret i et vægttab på hele 31 kilo:
- Jeg elskede mig selv så lidt dengang, at jeg lod hende behandle mig på den måde, fordi jeg ikke følte, jeg fortjente samme respekt som de andre passagerer, men nu ved jeg, at det langt fra er sandheden, lyder det fra den 25-årige mor til tre.
MY FAT SHAMING STORY . . #TRANSFORMATIONTUESDAY . . I remember taking the left side pic at AKL airport, ready to fly to Aus. I was so self conscious and had this huge ass jacket on ready to fly to SUNNY QLD of all places. I thought maybe if I covered my body, people wouldn't see what was blatantly obvious. To make matters worse when I went onto the airplane I couldn't fit the seat belt. The airline hostess found it appropriate to announce in the middle of a quiet plane that due to my size, i would need to use the seat belt extension that mums travelling w babies needed and maybe next time I should consider booking 2 seats to accommodate for my size to ensure a more "comfterble" flight for myself and other passengers. The feeling of pure embarrassment and shame is something I'll never forget. I loved myself so little back then that I let that airline hostess treat me that way. I belived I wasn't deserving of the same respect that she was showing the rest of the passengers because in my head, I was worth less than every skinny person on that plane. But as i know now, that was the furtherest thing from the truth and I wish my old self could have seen and known what i do now. The day I started LOVING myself enough to start taking care of ME and nourishing my body was the day I turned a new page. Both my physical and mental health have transformed so much since then and I am so PROUD. The girl on the right side is alot healthier, a whole lot happier and has so much confidence now (maybe a lil too much ). More importantly she LOVES HERSELF! Don't forget babes, no matter your size or shape, colour or culture, you are worth just as much as everyone else. Love yourself enough to take a stand for yourself and doing things for YOU. The rest will start to fall into place from there. I am a walking testament to that.
Er ikke sur på stewardessen
Ifølge Kayla Martin var hun den pågældende dag klædt i en stor frakke, der skulle dække mest muligt af hendes krop, fordi hun var flov over sit udseende. Da hun kom om bord på flyet, kunne hun ikke lukke flyselen, hvilket stewardessen altså opdagede og højlydt valgte at kommentere.
På trods af at Kayla Martin dengang følte sig verbalt overfaldet og gjort til grin af stewardessen bærer hun ikke nag den dag i dag:
- Jeg har ingen dårlige følelser over for hende. Jeg har mere været sur på mig selv over, at jeg ikke havde selvtillid nok til at forsvare mig selv. Jeg respekterer helt ærligt stadig flypersonalet og deres job, siger den 25-årige kvinde til Ekstra Bladet.
Siden Kayla Martin blev konfronteret med sin vægt har hun kæmpet en brav kamp for at blive sund. Det kan man se på hendes Instagram, hvor hun løbende deler billeder af sine fremskridt.
- Den dag, jeg begyndte at elske mig selv nok til at passe på mig selv og min krop, var den dag, jeg startede et nyt kapitel i mit liv. Mit fysiske og psykiske helbred har transformeret sig så meget siden den dag, og jeg er så stolt.
Se en række af Kaylas motiverende trænings-billeder herunder:
IN MY FEELINGS POST AHEAD Even this far into my journey, I still fight that tiny little inner voice telling me to be better. Telling me to do more. Telling me to work harder and keep up with everyone else. I would be lying if I said I don't in some way shape or form listen to that voice at times and let it get the best of me. Spesh when I'm lying in bed at midnight scrolling thru all of these Instababes pages wondering why TF that ain't me! That's when I start comparing myself to others too often instead of focussing on MY journey, MY goals and MY achievements. I have to always check myself and remember I'm running my own race for my own reasons. I'm in my own lane and I'm doing me! I might be doing me a little bit slower this month but I'm still progressing regardless . Goal #1 for 2018 - be kind to myself , I only live this life once. Owning these sweaty unfiltered, mid workout gym pics today✌. Hope you guys are being kind to yourselves too! Happy Thursday fam
This is the REALITY of 3 kids in 4 years and over 30kgs of weightloss. All raw unedited and unapollogetically ME and I have to say, I'm living my best life! Part of my journey has been learning to love myself from the inside out and the more I work on myself the more I appreciate the ONE body that I have been blessed with! Every lump, bump, loose skin and stretch mark is ALL ME . I sometimes get so consumed in changing my body that forget how loyal my body has been to me over these years! This body grew and birthed my 3 beautiful babies for goodness sakes! I need to appreciate it more! So for that reason, I ain't trying to be anything else but the best version of myself. Not only for me, but my family too. So here's to us! Celebrate and love yourself, cos your one in a milli babygirl you deserve nothing less. Xx ✌
After mentally checking out yesterday morning I still stuck to it and got that first PROPER workout in for 2018. I ain't done my usual leg day in a minute so I was dreaddddding it after a few weeks off of doing resistance training (I was low key avoiding it too?). So happy I done it tho,getting my routine back! I wish you could see in this pic but for real I am not someone who sweats alot and that workout had me SHOOK. Like my knees were sweating too??the fkkkk. aaaanyway back at it for arm day today. Ass is aching from legs but #YOLO. I had such an awesome response to me sharing my workout in my story that I'll do it again today for arms. So check it if ya keen babiessss. Happy hump day fam!