’Usund kropsfedt som det der er ikke naturligt, det er fordi du spiser lorte-mad og din krop har lagret det. Stop med at spise lorte-mad og forbrænd nogle af de kalorier, du putter i fjæset, så går det’.
Den ondskabsfulde sætning er en kommentar, som fitness-træner Jessi Kneeland fik til et billede, hun for nyligt lagde op på sin Instagram-profil.
Et billede, hun netop havde lagt op for at hylde kroppen og sit ’fancy fedt’ – appelsinhuden, som findes hos mange kvinder, uanset alder og størrelse. Det skriver britiske Metro.
Og hvis Instagram-brugeren havde givet sig tid til at læse opslagsteksten, ville vedkommende nok også have bemærket, hvordan Jessi Kneeland viste appelsinhuden på sit lår frem for at bryde et tabu.
Oh hey there, have you met my fancy fat? It's these pretty dimples along the back of my legs and butt. Some people think fancy fat is "bad," and will try to convince you to get rid of yours, but we know better. Fancy fat is just a natural, healthy, built-in decoration. (Or at least that's how I choose to see it.) # Note: There is absolutely nothing objectively true about statements like "cellulite is ugly" or "perfectly smooth and toned is more attractive." Those are just examples of a social reality we pass along to each other so often, that our brains start to believe they must be true, they're "natural," or they're "just the way things are." # But they're not. We can change the way we see things by interrupting those old thoughts, challenging and examining them, noticing how they affect us, changing what we expose ourselves to, and finding new beliefs that affect us in a more positive way. # Which exactly what I've done by re-casting my so-called embarrassing cellulite in the role of beloved Fancy Fat. # PS my fancy fat is more visible in some lighting or poses, and less visible in others. These 2 photos were taken when I happened to notice it popping recently in the mirror at my gym.
’Der er absolut intet objektivt sandt i statements som ’cellulitis er grimt’ eller ’perfekt, glat hud er mere attraktivt'. Disse er blot eksempler på en social virkelighed, som vi giver videre til hinanden, så ofte, at vores hjerner begynder at tro, at de må være sande’, skriver hun blandt andet til sit ærlige billede.
Så for at lægge ekstra vægt på sit budskab og for at give igen til Instagram-hateren, tog Jessi Kneeland et nyt billede af sig selv, hvor det fremgik tydeligt, hvor trænet og slank, hendes krop faktisk er. Under den lagde hun et skærmbillede af kommentaren, og skrev selv:
’Dette billede er taget i morges. Undskyld dude, jeg vidste ikke, at jeg havde cellulitis fordi jeg bare er FOR FED’.
LOLOLOLOL this comment was left by a hater, on the cellulite photo I posted yesterday. This photo was taken this morning. Sorry dude, I didn't realize I have cellulite because I'm just TOO FAT!! # Don't worry though. Me and my "unnatural, unhealthy body fat" are just gonna be over here helping women understand that there is NOTHING wrong with cellulite (or anything else about their bodies!) and that trolls like you are ignorant and uneducated. # Also I'll keep spinning my body as "none of your damn business." Because, yeah. That. # Lolllll #boybye
Herefter forsikrer Jessi Kneeland overfor den grove Instagram-bruger, at hun bare vil fortsætte med at hjælpe andre kvinder til at forstå, at der intet er galt med appelsinhud – alt imens han kan trolle videre og være en ’uuddannet ignorant’.
Det er i øvrigt langt fra første gang, at Jessi Kneeland deler billeder på Instagram, som skal hjælpe kvinder til lettere at kunne acceptere deres kroppe. Både mave og bryster har hun tidligere vist frem for at bryde urealistiske idealer.
I post photos of my body on the internet. I purposefully take and share photos that aren't "perfect," posed, or presented for the male gaze. I do this because I am a body image coach, and it's important to me that I practice what I preach. # A woman's body is not here to be looked at, judged, compared, criticized, or even admired. A woman's body is a vessel for life, and exists so that the woman can have a fully human experience. # When we get caught up in the cultural BS about what a woman's body should or shouldn't look like, and what she should or shouldn't do with it, we are robbing ourselves and everyone else of that human experience. When we are afraid to fully inhabit our bodies, when we live in shame about what people see and think when they look at us, we don't get to fully live. # My job is to help women learn how to inhabit their bodies without fear or shame. This is a concept so foreign to many women that I can only show them, by demonstrating in my own body. # I demonstrate that it is possible to *notice* cellulite without criticizing it. That you can *notice* weight gain without stressing about it. You can let your belly relax and be round without being embarrassed. You CAN observe your body without shame or fear. It IS possible. # Is it easy? Absolutely not. Is it fast? Not at all. But it's possible. And that's why I share photos like this one, of me working outside in a bikini, relaxed and natural. No hiding, no posing, no pretending, no shame. # This isn't an invitation to tell me what I should do with my body, or to tell me what you think of it. Maybe you thought I looked better yesterday, or maybe you prefer a little relaxed tummy. That doesn't matter to me. # This photo is for the women who have never relaxed their tummy in public, who can't even imagine posting a photo like this without sucking their belly in, or sticking their chest out to make their boobs look perkier. This is for any woman who thinks it's her job to create or maintain an appearance of "perfection," and who is utterly exhausted by the process. This photo is for the women who want to feel comfortable in their bodies but genuinely aren't sure if that's even possible.
Many years ago, someone told me she was lucky that her 40 year old boobs "still passed the pencil test." I had never heard of this, so she explained: its when your boobs are so perky that if you put a pencil underneath them, the pencil would fall. I felt immediate, devastating shame. # I had always hated my breasts. They came early, and they came big, and they brought with them an endless stream of unwanted attention. The worst part was that while they got all this attention, I knew their secret. They weren't big, perky, round, or sexy. They weren't any of the things breasts were supposed to be. They were heavy, low, squishy, and (despite being so very young), they sagged downward. # I hated my breasts with every fiber of my being. I hated them for trespassing on my otherwise nice body, and for making me look fat or frumpy in any top that fit. I hated them for not fitting into normal bras, and for making things like "strapless" or "backless" impossible. I hated them for making men sexualize me, and I hated them for making me feel so self conscious. # For over a decade, I daydreamed about getting a boob job to make them look perkier and fuller and more normal. I imagined my body without them, where everything was finally perfect. # When I heard about the pencil test, I was filled with shame, because I knew that my 23 year old boobs would fail it. My boobs made me a failure. I was a failure. # The road to self love is long. Over the last 5 years, I have utterly turned around my relationship with my breasts. It wasn't easy. It took a lot of painful, scary work. It took facing my fears step by step, throwing away my push-up bras, getting off hormonal birth control, losing and gaining weight, connecting to my true sexuality, airing my shame to friends and to the internet, learning to feel safe in my body, educating myself on what female bodies really look like, and deconstructing all of my beliefs around beauty, sex, and worthiness. # While I would still fail the pencil test, my breasts are now my favorite body part. I love them for providing me with the opportunity to heal and grow. I love them for challenging me to be brave. I love them for being mine.
Husker du den 29-årige mor, som tog ni tøjstørrelser på og blev 'en million gange gladere'?