De fleste vælger et kært billede af deres nyfødte guldklump, et ømt ammebillede eller antydningen af en miniature-hånd eller fod, når de vil skildre en nylig familieudvidelse med et billede på de sociale medier.
Mor-bloggeren Mel Watts, der også er kendt som The Modern Mumma, valgte en ret alternativ måde at gøre det på. Det skriver Metro.
Med en inspirerende tekst valgte hun at dele et billede af sin mave nedefra kun fire dage efter et kejsersnit. Sammen med det delte hun et billede af sin mave fra samme vinkel fra da hun var gravid i 30. uge.
Top photo 30 weeks pregnant Bottom photo 4 days post Caesarean section. Wow. Honestly it's no castle or bloody piece of art. Sure it's filled with stretch marks and dimples. But this body, this one the one I own gave me another life. Another small human to love and to hold. It held onto him for 9 months and sheltered him, protected him and prepared him for the day he was born. So many times I've doubted my body, so many times I've pinched and pulled at sections that I didn't like. In reality this body has done everything I'd ever want it to do. Sure it's not magazine or swimsuit worthy to some. But to me and my husband, it's the place that grew our babies. It's the place that everything we love most started. And that's all that counts right?! We feel as though we need to follow society's stigma on what we should look like when in fact we should just do what we feel works for us. No body has the same body And every body has their own body. Enjoy it.
I teksten beskriver hun, hvordan hun og manden har lært at elske mor-kroppen for mere end blot hvordan den ser ud.
’Det er ikke noget slot eller et kunstværk. Ja, den er fyldt med strækmærker og ujævnheder. Men denne krop, den her, den jeg ejer, gav mig et nyt liv. Et nyt lille menneske at elske og holde. Den holdt fast i ham i ni måneder og beskyttede ham og forberedte ham på den dag, han blev født’, skriver den australske mor-blogger blandt andet på billedet, som har fået en blandet modtagelse i kommentarerne. For selvom langt de fleste roser og takker Mel Watts for sin ærlighed og modet til at dele sit mave-billede, fik det også flere grove kommentarer med på vejen, hvor den nye mors krop blandt andet blev kaldt ’modbydelig’.
Dagen efter delingen af billedet, der er blevet tildelt over 6800 hjerter på det sociale billeddelingsmedie, lagde Mel Watts et nyt billede op af sin mave fra en ny vinkel.
Hey guys! Me again. So after yesterday's post I've had a few comments, shares etc which have been great . As reaching so many people and connecting with them is important to me, hence why I started to a blog - so someone had someone to relate to. It's been a whirlwind few days since the birth of our Sonny and I took a few moments last night to write down my feelings towards my post Caesarean section at Day 4. The photo was unflattering, with a dressing intact. If you zoomed you may of seen some regrow then and the little dignity I had left. Whatever floats your boat. As the shares reached new people the comments grew wider and further. Some referring to it as a real post baby body, some referring to it as revolting. Which is totally okay. However, I think you should be aware that I didn't use the word "real" in any of my post. I think all women's bodies are real. Some work hard for theirs and some *cough cough* don't Over time I've watched women be put down and slammed mostly by other women for how someone looks. Either being too fit, too fat, too sluggish and too pretty. I watched @reviejane get slashed for how she looked pregnant, I read @laurenbrant get trampled on for how she looked after her birth. The difference between us, both of these women work hard for how they look. I've watched Revie going to the gym whilst I'm on a 6 pack of doughnuts. Just because we all look different doesn't mean none of us aren't real or unrealistic. Some women bounce back, some don't. Some women train hard, some don't. And just because you feel like you don't fit in one of these categories doesn't make you any less real than myself, Lauren or Revie. We're all real. We're all women who have birthed little humans and we're all just trying to do the best we can. Just like the other millions of women in the world. Instead of fighting each other and writing nasty things about people we don't know how about we just embrace each other? There is so much bad in this world at the moment that as soon as we stop thinking it's acceptable behaviour to bring other women down it's never going to get better. #bethechange
Her fortæller hun om modtagelsen af det oprindelige billede, og kaldet det ’totalt okay’, at nogle fandt det frastødende.
’Men jeg synes, I skal være klar over, at jeg ikke brugte ordet ’ægte’ i nogle af mine opslag. Jeg mener, at alle kvinders kroppe er ægte. Nogle arbejder for deres, og nogle *host host* gør ikke’, skriver mor-bloggeren til det nye billede.
En kvinde bad tidligere i år en ammende mor flytte sig, fordi brysterne distraherede hendes mand. Det skulle hun ikke have gjort!